Friday 6 October 2017

That little thing in my purse



Courage, you are a curious thing, and rightly so
Some people want you as a pet, to follow them wherever they go
So you’ll be around when they truly need you
Attack or defend, play as they want you to
But if you are a pet, you have to be nurtured
Clothed, fed, loved and sheltered
And I cant invest myself that much on you
No walks in the dappled sunlight, no cozy rooms for you
I choose to keep you hidden in my purse
I know you’re in there, for better or for worse
I threw away my lipstick, I had to make space
When the heart is strong, need I care for my face
I like our relationship, you need no attention or care
When the time comes I look no further, I know you’re in there
And someday maybe I wont need you with me
I know I sound too optimistic, but you’ll see
No don’t worry, you’ll still be near
You’re not just a friend, but my knight in shining armour
And I shall pass you on with pride, this legacy
To that little girl who seems uneasy
Be in her purse and make sure she’s ready

And when she moves on, you’ll still go steady!

Wednesday 28 June 2017

Management lessons from a bunch of First Grade kids

Last Saturday we had a chance to work with the students of Brindavan Tent School in Vignan Nagar, Bangalore, as part of Volunesia. To give a brief background, Volunesia was started by a group of volunteers coming together once every week to make goodies out of recycled/waste products. These goodies would then be distributed to students in various underprivileged schools for their good work and progress. What started off as morning sessions on Saturdays in Bangalore’s iconic Cubbon Park, has now evolved into focused activities in Brindavan Tent School with students who would also be a part and learn a little something along the way.  


This week’s theme was Cleanliness and we had decided to make dustbins out of discarded cardboard boxes that they could take home with them. After all, Cleanliness begins at home! The students were from Classes I to IV and I was assigned a couple of Grade I kids along with another volunteer. It was a wonderful two hour session at the end of which we, the volunteers, were left both super charged and tired at the same time. Along with all the obvious flow of energy that seemed to us like a high intensity workout (no kidding!), these kids ended up teaching us a few subtle but important lessons, ones that I would be taking with me to work every single day:

1)   Be accepting of all ideas. At the same time, don’t hesitate to give your suggestions
As soon as the cardboard boxes were handed over to us, the students were wondering how to get started and approached us for ideas. But in under 2 minutes, all that changed. It was them suggesting the number of stars we needed to stick on one side or what to draw on the other. They were calling the shots and every time it was implemented they made sure to inform us whether or not they liked it.
Yes, it is safe to stick to the original plan and would also save time and a lot of back-and-forth conversations. However, what if while executing your project, you come across an idea that you may want to try? Would it work? Would it jeopardize the existing schedule? These are all valid questions but what if, just what if there was real value in it? Shouldn’t we atleast explore them?
2)   Scarcity of resources is only an illusion
As a rule, we always carry a limited number of scissors, glue, etc. for our Volunesia sessions. It gives us an opportunity to interact with the volunteers since we would be meeting most of them for the first time. It was our perfect conversation starter. So this time too, we had limited stationary, which would have been fine if we didn’t have to also manage the kids. It was becoming a little difficult for us to try and source what we needed from our counterparts. The kids however had already started reaching out to their friends in other groups for their favorite colour crayon, fevicol tube or paper. They even knew what they could offer in exchange for what they needed. Talk about effective bartering!
How many times do we let go of ideas or delay our projects citing dependencies or low supply of resources? If only we would roll up our sleeves and start collaborating.
3)   If you’re done with what’s assigned to you, see if you can contribute elsewhere
We started out as groups of 3-5 kids per volunteer, but once some of the students were done with their beautiful dustbins, they did not want to sit idle. They at once, started looking around for other groups that needed cutting, sticking, painting, and what not! If there were unfinished ones, these children were at it to make sure all of it was completed within the given time.
Most of us, while working in teams get so involved in what’s assigned to us that we fail to see the bigger picture. We forget that each individual’s contribution would only matter if the entire project was a success. Let’s make sure we reach out and be that extra hand/brain, whatever our team requires.
4)   Once it’s done, move the hell on!
In around 2 hours, all the boxes were transformed into colourful dustbins. We then began our usual process of salvaging all the remaining materials that we could use during the coming sessions. While we were busy assembling all this, the children got back to doing what they do best as soon as they are free – they started playing in the ground. We literally had to bring them together after a bit of a struggle to tell them what a fantastic job they had done. They heard it, smiled, clapped with us patiently and then as soon as we stopped talking, ran outside to resume their games. We volunteers on the other hand, were so happy and proud of the small step we had taken that day and spent a good half hour discussing how nice it felt to have a purpose, no matter how trivial it may seem.
While it may good to debrief and discuss at length, the various great and (ahem!) not-so-great aspects of the project once it is completed, many of us hold on to it for the longest time. If something went wrong, we break our heads over it either feeling guilty or looking for others to blame. And if something turned out great, we keep simmering in that success. Wouldn’t it just be better to not linger for too long and start fresh each time?
5)   Smile, and then smile some more
These children were in school on a Saturday morning when most of us wouldn’t even have woken up and they were asked to make something with people whom they were meeting for the very first time. Yet, there was not a single bit of reluctance from their side. Just happy and non-judgmental faces and hearts excited about what they were about to do and looking for ways to contribute.
This one is definitely for keeps. As Ketut instructs Liz in ‘Eat Pray Love’ – “Smile with face, smile with mind, and good energy will come to you and clear away dirty energy. Even smile in your liver.” Do this and watch the magic unfold automatically.  

P.S: The author is currently learning basic Kannada from her colleagues that would help her communicate better with the students of the school. It’s all about Give and Take.

Monday 24 April 2017

Bikes, rides and barrels

All bikers have one of the two approaches to bikes – some own them merely to show off, while the rest are passionate about being one with their machines. Then, there was Cherian.

Photo Courtesy: Blueprints.com

Day 2 in Wayanad. The boys were mesmerized with the raw and rugged charisma of this quaint town – where the exploits of tourism had not yet destroyed its natural state of beauty. They had ventured a little further from their original plan to visit the Chembra Peak. They visited a nearby Wildlife Sanctuary and had managed to see bisons, deer and the Hanuman langur at fairly close range but they wanted more. They figured, a trek to the Peak would add another dimension to the trip before they called it a day. The humility with which nature presented itself with open arms to intrigued souls who wanted to understand it better. Not that it mattered, when you have a bike, and not just any bike but the Kawasaki Versys 650 which they affectionately called Howler. This was Howler’s seventh long bike ride. Even before Jai gifted himself the bike on his 23rd birthday, he had meticulously prepared a list of the 20 bike rides that he wanted to do within India, complete with route maps, best-time to travel, stops required, places to visit on the way, etc. In parallel, he had also begun his physical and mental training to be part of the Iron Butt Association (Yes, it is a real thing!)
So once Howler was delivered, the riding scene set itself in motion. Being in Bangalore, it made sense to cover the lower half of the country first and slowly move farther with every trip. Plus, there was never a dearth of places here. So after covering most of Karnataka and Tamil Nadu, Jai chose Kerala. This time, however, he had a pillion rider – his Veeru, whose actual name was Amith. Amith had met with a minor accident eleven months ago that led to a hairline-fracture in his ankle. Since the accident, Amith restricted his riding to very short distances around the city but Jai didn’t want his Veeru to miss out on the trip. So here they were 2 days and 350 kms later, on the Vayavatta Road towards their resort after a fulfilling day.
It was now Amith’s turn to ride and Jai looked at his watch. ‘7 pm Veeru. We should’ve started a little earlier. The whole damn town switches off right after sunset here’. Amith however remained calm. ‘Why worry, when Google Baba shall show you the way!!’ he said poetically. ‘Only 20 kms. We should be there by 8. In time for hot appams and mutton stew. Just make sure you get the route right.’
After a while though, Amith started to get a little suspicious. ‘Hotel Dubai?? I don’t remember seeing this in the morning. You sure it’s the right route?’, he enquired. Jai, having had enough of Amith’s constant questioning, simply chose not to reply. Almost half an hour later and with no Roseberg Resort or people in sight, they stopped to look around for familiar places. Network was patchy here and Google Baba couldn’t do much about it. Most of the hotels and shops were closed but for one teashop whose owner was also just closing down. After much explaining in Kannada-Hindi-Tamil they realized they were in Padivayal, 16 kms away from the resort. 16 kms in Bangalore would have been a cake-walk (minus the traffic), but in remote towns and villages, it wasn’t that easy. Especially so since they were also running out of petrol. They asked the teashop owner (again in awkward Kannada-Hindi-Tamil) if there were any petrol pumps around. The owner smiled and said, ‘1 km straight and then first right. 3 kms, reach Cherian house. Petrol there. Then straight to Nedumbala. Roseberg Resort 6 kms from there’. So the shop owner knew English after all!
Although it took longer than expected, by combining the information from (the still patchy) Google Maps and the owner’s instructions, they reached their first stop. A small villa styled house with a board hanging from the tiled roof that said, ‘Cherian House’. The house in itself was a simple one-storey cottage with a verandah on both sides and a long sit-out in front. The decoration was minimal and consisted of a large wooden cross above the main door and two hanging flower pots with money plants. The garden had rows of neatly trimmed hibiscus, bougainvillae and rose brushes. The garden and entrance were lit by soft yellow lights which gave the house, a colonial Portugese look. The boys however were not interested in the house. They were instantly drawn to the garage on the right end of the house. A firm structure, which housed not one, not two, but four motorcycles gleaming in the moonlight.
Jai let out a whistle. It was an unbelievable scene, according to him. “Look at those beauties Veeru”, he exclaimed. “Damn it! All of them right out of my wishlist man!” Veeru was too stunned to reply. A moment later, the main door of the house opened and a smiling man in his mid-30s walked towards the boys and opened the main gate. Jai was the first to talk. He explained how they ended up in the wrong route and their desperate need for petrol. It would be great if Cherian Sir could help them.
The man, still smiling, introduced himself as Koshy, Cherian’s son. “You youngsters depend too much on GPS and phones these days, you don’t realize that in rural areas, the best guides are local people.” Jai quickly made a mental note – Less Google Maps, More Google Translate. You still had to have technology though! Veeru, however, couldn’t get his mind off the garage - “We were actually admiring the bikes in your garage. Straight out of my wishlist, Sir!” To this, Koshy laughed. “I have a Carwash and a garage in Kozhikode but in our hearts, we are a family of bike enthusiasts. Plus I like to keep them here so Appa can see them.” Koshy then took them to his garage where the boys spent a good twenty minutes fussing over the bikes, comparing the models and asking for reviews.
“Oh I almost forgot!”, Koshy said and then pointed to a small desk placed outside the garage. On the desk were ten plastic bottles filled with dark brown liquid, which the boys immediately understood to be petrol. The boys were so engrossed with the bikes that they missed seeing the table and only when they saw the bottles did they remember why they were there. Amith took a bottle and after thanking Koshy profusely for being a savior especially for tourists like them, he asked how much should they pay for the bottle. “Not that it matters, Koshy Sir. This is our Liquid Gold for today”, added Jai. Koshy looked a little surprise. “I thought you knew already. All the thanks should actually go to Appa and these bottles are not here for sale. We don’t charge for the petrol, although it would be great if you returned the bottles. Swachh Bharat and all, you see!”
Both Jai and Amith were taken by surprise. “How could somebody give petrol for free? Actually, why would they? In fact shouldn’t you charge more because it is so difficult to get petrol around here?” Koshy listened to all the questions and profit projections patiently before he replied laughing – “Thank you for your wonderful suggestions but like I said, this is something Appa started that we would like to hopefully continue for a long time.” “Appa sure sounds like a very interesting man… and super rich”, Jai exclaimed. “Actually on the contrary”, Koshy said. “Appa’s father was a care taker in one of the bungalows down south. The bungalow was owned by the British and their son was the first owner of a motorbike in the region. The first time Appa saw the bike, he fell in love. Since then, it was his dream to own a bike. Specifically, the 1942 BSA M20. So as soon as he started working, he began saving as well. But you know how it is those days. Sisters, Marriage, us kids and so on. Appa’s commitments increased but his salary, not so much. So although he bought himself a Luna and never failed to take us all on his friend’s bikes (it was his favorite hobby, by the way!), he never got to buying his own bike. That, however, didn’t stop him from saving for his bike, and also from putting in me and most of the kids here, that love and respect for bikes. What you see here is proof of that deep reverence we have for this wonderful machine”, he said waving to the neatly arranged row of bikes in his garage.
 “Wow!!” Jai exclaimed. “I am also a total sucker for bikes too but this is something else. One thing I still don’t understand, why the free bottles, if I may ask?” “Oh yes! That was a huge turning point for Appa”, said Koshy and continued “He once got a chance to visit Goa with his boss and family on a four-day trip. Appa was their driver and during their time in Goa, they used to reach their hotel late every night after all the dinner and playing in the beaches. One of the things Appa noticed almost every night on his way back to the hotel was that some houses had desks with bottles like the one you see here. He ignored them at first but after seeing this at a couple of places he wanted to know what they were for. So he asked about these desks to the people at the hotel. Not sure, if you have heard about it but these were the locals, Good Samaritans, who wanted to help tourists in case they ran out of petrol because petrol pumps were hard to find in some areas. And this was all before Google and Maps. So they figured they would help by placing bottles of petrol in front of their homes, that too for free! Goa was a huge attraction even them and most of the Goans made their livelihoods through the thriving tourism. They hence had a lot of love and gratitude for those visiting their land and wanted to ensure a warm welcome to all those visiting. That day, Appa learnt something that would change his life forever. These people who provided the petrol in Goa weren’t rich landlords or wealthy people. They were just normal folks trying to make their land friendlier. So after he returned from Goa, Appa took out all the money he saved for his bike and set up his table around twelve years ago. So what if he couldn’t have a bike of his own, he would instead help tourists get to their destinations, safely and without any worry. And all these years he did just that. He is not too well these days but still ensures that the bottles are full every single day. I would like to think we have helped a few people along the way. Making tourists happier, one bottle at a time!”
Jai and Amith didn’t know what to say. They wanted to meet Cherian Sir. This man who had a small dream which morphed into something much greater. His wish to ride his own bike around the world transformed into a larger-than-himself dream of doing his bit to help other travelers who visit his hometown. Old age had taken a toll on him and he had been in hospital for a couple of weeks. However, he was better now except for his forgetfulness and hearing issues. “He loves to meet bikers like you. Please have a seat and I shall bring him.” A few minutes later, Cherian emerged from the room. He was a handsome man, probably in his 80’s and was fussing over his mundu, complaining that it wasn’t starched properly. He was in a wheelchair and Koshy brought him closer so he could took a good look at the boys. Cherian’s face lit up like he was meeting old friends and he gave them a broad smile.  Both Jai and Amith had a lot of feelings going through their heads but were too speechless to say anything. After a couple seconds, Amith, in his basic Malayalam asked, “Hello Sir. Kazhicho?”
“Aa. Idli, 3 ennam”
“Appo idli koode entha?”
“Chutney”, he replied which Koshy corrected, “Chutney allalo Appa, Sambar alle”
“Aa..chutney poloru sambar, sambar poloru chutney..”
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